Learn to differentiate between what you are truly at peace with and what you are trying to convince yourself you are OK with.
One is a spiritual state of being and the other is a coping mechanism.
One is a place of joyful surrender and the other is an unconscious pain-management attempt that will ironically keep you in pain.
Because it's keeping you away from the deeper truth - the yearning in your heart.
I see this all the time when it comes to wanting to be in partnership and also around having children.
What happens is that the yearning feels too painful, so this false sense of "Maybe I don't even want that anyway" kicks in.
The problem is, it's not real.
So the feeling of 'maybe' will remain.
Often, until one day, it's maybe too late.
Then the maybe becomes something more like "Oh s**t"
But at least in that moment, when it comes to realising the truth of wanting to be in committed partnership...
Knowing that you do indeed want to experience the joy of wanting someone lovingly claiming you...
We can work with that.
But with the mental gymnastics thing...
Nothing can be done.
Truly.
If you can't feel the yearning, then there isn't enough energy to fuel the required internal shifts that break a lifetime of patterns.
But before getting hit by an "Oh s**t" moment, what you CAN do... Is be brave.
And consciously enter into your heart.
Instead of being stuck in the head where all the stories live.
Let the yearning be known... To yourself and externally.
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Because here's the other thing...
In the attempt to make yourself 'OK', you are also signalling to the universe that nothing needs to change.
And so, unsurprisingly, nothing changes.
Because that's how the universe works.
YOU ARE ALSO SIGNALLING TO HIM THAT YOU DON'T WANT HIM
Because be not mistaken. He is out there. And passing you by everyday.
I've proven several times here in the group that the world is absolutely full of heart-connected men of integrity who are looking for a powerful, embodied woman to partner with.
But the frequency of "I-don't-think-I-want-a-relationship" energy simply isn't what he's looking for.
And why should it be any different when you also don't want a man who is ambiguous about what he wants?
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Here is the test to see if you've truly spiritually surrendered to your current life state or are trapping yourself with unconscious pain-management...
Assume you are going to die at the age of 89 years old.
Take whatever age you are now, calculate how many years you have left.
That's X amount of years of your life being EXACTLY as it is now.
NOT being 100% chosen by a man who exalts your very existence.
Then you die.
How does it feel when you play this movie to yourself?
Happy ending? Or tragic?
Here is your truth.
You don't have to choose friends and career over an amazing relationship.
YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL, MY DEAR.
Just like Beth
She didn't get 'lucky'.
She stopped pretending she was 'all good'.
And met and continues to meet the yearning in her heart. Which is the force that ATTRACTS everything she wants into her life.
Money, house, family, and abundance of time for creativity…
And me.
And this is what we teach.
How to signal to man and the world what you truly want, by meeting that yearning yourself...
Without being overwhelmed by it. And in a way that doesn't freak a man out... But magnetizes him to you.
