He could be genuinely busy.
But...
this is most likely more honestly translated as:
"I'm acutely tuned into the anxiety you feel when I haven't replied for ages. And the way that emotionally off-balances you is what makes me feel safe and in-control"
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In the Japanese martial arts we have this concept called 'kuzushi'. It's a tipping point we create in our opponent - making them off-centre or off-balance just enough that our next move will work 🥋
My capacity to throw you around comes from this.
The Unhealed Man does the same kind of throwing, except it's in the emotional realm.
Just like a skilled martial artist, he knows just how to create that emotional kuzushi.
It's what makes HIM feel emotionally safe, even if it means making you feel emotionally unsafe 😒
But here's the thing - it doesn't work on everyone.
In the martial arts, you stay safe from kuzushi by being able to return to your centre - because you've worked to strengthen it. You energetically come back to yourself.
It's the same in relationships.
You must have a strong centre, a strong core, a strong SELF to begin with.
You can learn all the 'secret texts to send when he pulls away' 🙄
But that's like learning kung fu tricks from YouTube videos before entering a professional fight.
Don't do that 🤦🏻♂️
Your relationship to yourself is THE thing that needs attention. Only then will the 'techniques' work. And you won't need to find out what 'tricks' to use.
I make this the primary focus on how I coach women into a place of coming home to their centre first...
So kuzushi will simply not work on you anymore 💃 🧘♀️
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